Fictional men written by women are so perfect. There is no doubt because they don't exist. No offence to any writers out there, as their work is writing. On the other hand, we all know literature has the ability to influence thoughts and that's what the problem is when reading romantic novels, especially those that are written by a women. I am a social media user and Instagram is something I use very often. While watching stories, I always come up with a quote that says "Fictional men are better" They are because they are perfect, and perfection never existed, but the stans who always beat the drums on their stories, posting nonsense comparing fictional men to real ones, are the real issue here. Firstly, it is so dumb to compare fiction to reality, and secondly, it's my frustration that drives me to write about it because how would you feel if I compared a fictional woman with a real one? What would you think if we started comparing real-life women to "wonder women"? We bookish folks have that tendency to imagine stuff that is written in a book and as the story goes forward, we flow with those thoughts of their existence and comparisons with real life.

Physical appearance 

Some common concepts that are important when writing a fictional male character are height and weight. Like, have you ever wondered why those guys are always 6 feet tall? usually 6.5 feet, to be precise. When a character in one fantasy series casually mentioned being 6'5" six books into the series—at 6'5", you would not fit on a normal horse saddle, among other things—that was the one woman-writing-male moment that completely shattered my immersion in the story and that's not good. Why does the male character always have a good body with a natural skin tone and abs? If we men met that perfect body expectation, it would be called something or other, which wouldn't be fair. Hypersexuality?

Bad boy habits

Massimo Torricelli, the bad boy character from "365 Days," is one of many examples that I find very uncool. The fandom that likes that character should think twice before they fantasise about having a man like him in their life. The only positive point about Massimo Torricelli is that he is rich, but the way he treats women is literally like a rag doll, and I hope none of his fans want to be treated like that until and unless they want to be treated like that (excluding dominant sex fantasies). Think about it for a moment. Is a guy who treats women like rags and has overpowering dominance worth it?

Love ideas

Don't get me wrong; I absolutely adore a good fictional romance and a swoon-worthy character. However, these days, I feel like I have a much more realistic idea of what love is, and I don't let those sometimes unreasonable expectations cloud my judgment. I guess what I'm trying to say is that fictional characters that we think are "perfect" in books and movies make it very easy for us to develop unfounded expectations. I hear a lot of people say, "Fictitious boys are better," and while I don't always think they mean it that way, there are times when I do wonder if it sets us up for unrealistic expectations about relationships and love. I'm not saying you shouldn't have standards or expectations; in fact, you absolutely should, but you can't expect your guy to perform your favourite romantic gesture from a book or movie every other day.

Why Loving a Real Man is Better Than Loving a Fictional Man

There is no doubt that it takes a lot of hard work, patience, and faith to have a meaningful relationship with a real man. However, it is also so much more satisfying than having an unfulfilled crush on my favourite fictional character, Hinata. Trying to share a life with someone else will inevitably push us out of our comfort zone as we get used to their quirks. Our capacity to think about more than our own desires will grow, and the reward of being given true companionship is worth all of the demands that come with being in a relationship with a real person. Loving a real guy forces us to grow as people.

Closing thoughts

Do you believe that you have ever placed unrealistic expectations on your significant other as a result of movies or books? What made you realise that they weren't even close to being real? It's fun and can help us figure out what kind of guy we like to have a little crush on a fictional character, but nothing can compare to the value of a committed relationship with a real man.