The lessons I learned from the past few days

The lessons I learned from the past few days :

To be honest, this week was very tough for me. Thanks to my friends for being available for me. Things were pretty much scattered due to wrong decisions of mine and different criteria to be considered. OK, so back to the subject " The lessons I learned from the past few days" are as follows:

1. Communication is necessary.

Listening is the most important thing in communication.

Communication is the key. If this key gets lost, things do fall apart, and a major distance takes place in between the relationships. That relationship can be anything or between anyone, but lack of communication does worsen the things. Maybe it can also ruin the most beloved relationships in your life. Listen to someone if you are angry at them or if they are reaching out to you for something. Do not go for silent treatment. I swear it creates distance between people. Even the basic communication helps listen to the faulty side and importantly, go for accepting fault, apologising, forgiving and forgetting rule. Most people listen and even accept the apology, but they don't forgive and forget. This forgive and forget part accumulates, and eventually the communication becomes toxic, and the relationship ends. Sometimes being clear and ending is a good way too. Indeed, it's extremely hard, but we have to go through that. Remember, be sure about what you want to say because not speaking what you feel is never a good option. If you hate someone, tell them. If you like someone, tell them. If you don't want to stay with someone, let them know. Whatever the thoughts are, just say that. It might hurt, but be true towards that.

2. Be happy for others.

Be glad for people when they win; because you have no idea what they've been through when they were losing.

If it breaks and the other person moves on or finds someone who is compatible with them, don't curse them. Be happy because letting go is still a part of love. Always hope the best for them. Never store hatred for him/her in your heart. So what if the guys are not meant to be together? If the other one is getting the happiness he/she deserves, just be happy for them. It was indeed a good time together. Don't ruin the memories by filling them with hate in it.

Not only for romantic relationships, but also for friendship success. I genuinely get happy when my friends or anyone reaches out to me and talks about how things really went well in their life. I know how it feels when you just have to go through it when your world is falling apart and all you can do is to just watch. Nevertheless, no matter what, just keep moving and be happy for the people you like.

3. Good friends are extremely hard to come by.

You don't need 20 friends, you just need 2 other MF with you and you can take over a country. Just 3 mad mf of you are finished - Joey Diaz

Not everyone is your friend. True friends find themselves. Always keep two friends like Karn and Krishna. One that will fight for you despite knowing defeat is imminent, and the second that will ensure you victory without participating in it. I was extremely lucky when it came to friends. I don't have much, but whoever it is, they always ensure that no problem strikes me and even if I get hit by life, they uplift me. We don't meet each other on a daily basis, but if call them and say you have a problem, the next minute you will find them on doorstep.

I'll say make good friends and be someone's good friend, because when no one is around and the whole world turns back on you, "friend" doesn't. Don't just have a good friend, also be one, and a friend who tells you secrets about others is never trustworthy. Choose wisely while you share something with someone. In my case, my friends will surely fight for me even when I am wrong. Yes, they will beat me later for being wrong, but they won't let the other person touch me. In this phase, my very close two friends really helped me a lot.

4. Whatever is going to happen, is going to happen.

Whatever is going to happen will happen, whether we worry or not.

Life is unpredictable and we aren't God. I'll say rather trust God and the process because whatever that is meant for you is only meant for you. Remember, whatever happens always happens for the best. Thinking positively in this phase can be a good decision. "Let's go with the flow" attitude may also work, but avoid negative possibilities. Just accept the fact that you have no control over the future and enjoy the present.

5. Everything and everyone deserves a second chance.

Sometimes life gives you a second chance, or even two! Not always, but sometimes. It’s what you do with those second chances that counts.    

Everything and everyone deserves a chance. I do believe in second chances because life is full of opportunities, but I won't force you to give a second chance to something or someone if you don't want to. Every human being deserves a second chance, but be careful who you give that second chance to. Sometimes it's unacceptable to present them and provide them with a second chance. It all depends on the circumstances and also the person. As we tend to be human, we make mistakes. We all have our flaws and thus, we will not pass judgement on others. It takes real courage to forgive somebody and give them another chance.

6. Ignorance is rewarded with Ignorance.

Lonely isn’t a feeling when you’re alone, lonely is a feeling when no one cares.

If you try to contact someone after your mistake and they tend to ignore you, just leave the communication. I understand it takes a lot of courage to apologise or confess something and get along with yourself. If all this at the same time as your presence, situation, or fee has not given anything, however, lack of information from their side , then it is beneficial to distance yourself absolutely from that person. I know it's hard to ignore the person you love or to get ignored by the person you love, but that's life. We have to move forward. Do try best from your side contacting the person you love but if no energy comes back just stop your efforts. 

7. Be thankful

If you want to find happiness, find gratitude.— Steve Maraboli

Be grateful for what you have. That's also a key towards happiness. Be grateful for life, be grateful for living, be grateful for friends, be grateful someone is trying to talk to you, be grateful you have someone who likes you, be grateful you have food to eat, be grateful you have parents. Be grateful, even for every small thing in your life.

Conclusion:

People that really need to be with you may discover some of the opposite ways that to be with you irrespective of what. However, if they don't, then keep in mind that your true identity is your purpose in life and and perpetually bothering yourself for the eyes of such individuals will do nothing except hamper your peace of mind and drift you aloof from your goal.